Ms. Social Grace’s Guide to Respect


Ms-Social-GraceDear Ms. Social Grace:

It’s summer time, and the living is easy.

I am fortunate to be a stay at home Mom, and I want to use the next ten weeks wisely with my 10, 12 and 13 year old. We are blessed with two boys and a girl.

With the recent political climate and, even the social climate, our family has made a commitment to show respect to one another, as well as, friends, acquaintances and strangers.

We are looking for some guidelines to share with our family and hope to put some “best practices” in place for our family.

So, without further ado, I turn it over to you!

Leipers Fork Lover Not a Fighter

Dear Leipers Fork Lover:

This is a wonderful summer task and one I’m sure your family will appreciate for years to come. So, here we go R-E-S-P-E-C-T:

1. When welcoming someone into your home, warm and friendly is essential. Respect your home and the visitor.

2. If the door is closed, it is respectful and good manners to knock and wait for permission to enter.  Everyone deserves a moment of privacy.

3. Respect the belongings of other people. If you want to borrow something, please always ask permission and return whatever it is you borrow. Return the item in the same condition.

4. Respect for spaces works the same as way as borrowing items – if you make brownies in a clean kitchen, return the kitchen to the way it was when you found it.

5. Respect your siblings’ (and those of all people) private possessions – this means don’t eavesdrop or read your sister’s diary.

6.  In sports, respect the opposing person or team. Both the winner and the loser need to accept the outcome graciously. 

7. Respect the clock. If you say you will be somewhere at a certain time, make it happen. The same goes with leaving – don’t go to a friend’s house and just plan to stay indefinitely. People need time boundaries so that they can plan accordingly.

The art of good manners and practice of etiquette starts at home. Parental guidance and personal practice are the best tools you can provide to aid your children in the act of respecting other people. There are lots of specifics, but you have already taken on the most important task for your family, the practice of respect.

Happy Summer!
Ms. Social Grace

Ms. Social Grace uses several resources including the etiquette defining tomes of Miss Manners as a reference for all responses regarding appropriate behavior. You can get advice on questions of etiquette by writing to Ms. Social Grace at


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